Becoming the Source
(This is a brief overview of the video I filmed this week that can be accessed along with lots of other helpful mind/body tools for tough transitions on our Facebook Group "No Mud, No Lotus~Tools for Tough Transitions ).
When a spouse leaves, the kids are rude or snarky, the dream job falls away, or our bodies fail us, it can seem like the source of our wellbeing starts to dry up, and we can feel alone and defeated.
I get it...I’ve been there. When my marriage fell apart a few years ago, I was faced with being alone and a single mom at 40. I never thought I would make it through the pain of loss let alone be able to face the fears of starting over. But I did and you will too.
You see, moment to moment, we have a choice. To stay the victims of another's behaviors or other unwanted circumstances, or to muster up the power to rise.
But we must practice. Every day. Especially when we are feeling fear.
When we can commit to practices and a lifestyle of training ourselves to turn inward for the support and love that we crave from our outer situations, our lives will dramatically change.
What happens when we stop waiting for our circumstances to change to feel better? Drumroll please!!!
We realize that WE are the ones we’ve been waiting for!
Here’s a tool that you can use anytime anywhere to feel better.
1) Relax the tensions in the body:
- Feel your sitting bones or feet where they are touching the ground.
- Scan the body for tightness. Relax the belly, the shoulders, the jaw and the forehead. Soften everywhere there is tightness.
2) Become aware of the breath
- Allow the breath to show up exactly as it is...no need to change or manipulate it
- Notice where you feel the breath the most in your body
- Rest your awareness here
3) Bring yourself deeper into the moment
- Notice 3 sounds around you...near or far
- Consciously notice 3 things you can see
- Smell the moment. Swallow and release the throat.
4) Ask yourself “What is it that I want to hear from the people in my life that would make me happier right now”
This could be from your coworkers, your partner, your children, your clients, your doctor, even your Ex. It may be appreciation (“thank you so much for everything you do for me!”), affirmation (“you are doing such a good job! I am in awe of your gifts”), are simply attention to something amazing about you (“You are one of the most beautiful and kind people I know!”).
Place your hand to your heart. Repeat this phrase. Soak it in. Feel the love, appreciation, affirmation for yourself.
If you don’t have time for the whole practice, you can practice step 4, anywhere, anytime, all the time.
You deserve to be happy, free and loved. Please start today <3.